Book Summary: Crazy, Good, Sex Dr. Les Parrott

Crazy, Good, Sex

Dr. Les Parrott

Les Parrott writes "Crazy, Good, Sex" as a response to the Americanized cultural view of sex in a world that is broken and obsessed with the idolization of human sexuality.  It is an honest, transparent, and even blunt work that provides clarity on a variety of issues, as well as causes the reader (either male or female) to introspectively ask some difficult questions.  I would caution those considering this read to ensure they are at an age whereby this type of read would be appropriate.  Below are my notes & quotes from the book:

Part One: Crazy Sex or Stupid Sex

Chapter 1:  Kinky and Corney:  The Honest Reason I Wrote This Book

Proverbs 23:7 – For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. (NKJV)

Parrot outlines a great illustration about the origin of Corn Flakes and its relationship to reducing the human sex drive.

“Anybody who believes that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach flunked geography” – Robert Byrne

The stated intention of this book is “to right the wrong thinking men have held about sex for far too long.”

Chapter 2:  What Hugh Hefner Never Figured Out

In brief, this chapter summarizes the sexual revolution as depicted from the view of introducing porn in America.  Bill Maher, known for his political commentary is quoted as saying “Unless you women are willing to give us sex whenever we want, you don’t have the right to gripe about porn…”

Hefner generated a culture of a perfect bachelor pad lifestyle on his syndicated television program, laying the groundwork for ‘The Playboy Philosophy.’

Porn is a 57 billion dollar industry globally now as a result of this philosophy and its competitors.

As one might expect, eventually promiscuous pictures were not enough, and the advanced to full frontal, and eventually, videos.

“We will never recapture the importance of Playboy in the 60s and 70s because we changed the world.  We live in a Playboy world now.” – Hugh Hefner

“Sex has become one of the most discussed subjects of modern times.  The Victorians pretended it did not exist; the moderns pretend nothing else does.” Fulton J. Sheen

Part Two:  Six Big Sex Myths

Myth 1:  Men Want More Sex Than Women Do

Important Points to Understanding your Wife’s Libido:

·      Women Equate Sex with Emotional Assurance

·      Women Withhold Sex When Feeling Hurt

·      Women Are More Hormonal Than Men

·      A Woman’s Sex Drive Can Be More Easily Distracted

How to Align Your ‘Mismatched Libidos’

·      Let God of the Myth

·      Discuss Your Sex Drives

·      Make initiations Easier

·      Take Your Time

·      Reduce Distractions

·      Touch Her Feelings before You Touch Her Body

·      Help around the House

·      Tune into Her Hormones

Myth 2:  Sex with the Same Person Gets Boring

Statistics surrounding this show that married people have more regular sex lives that those living the single life trying to ‘get lucky.’  These same studies show that married sex is more satisfying then even those cohabiting.  (both according to the New England Journal of Medicine)

Parrot has worked as a sex therapist within the context of his psychological practice, and suggests these items to help keep passion’s fire burning between the sheets of their marriage bed.

·      Change Your Position

·      Change Your Schedule

·      Think Outside the Bed

·      Don’t Keep Track

·      Get Hands-On Help if you Need It

·      Enliven Your Senses

·      Trade Spontaneity for Intention

·      Have a “Sex Talk”

·      Woo Your Wife

Myth 3:  Porn Is Not Addictive

Overwhelming evidence suggests that pornography is addictive to the point of chemical addiction.  Further, it has often been related to the drug cocaine in its addictive structure.  It is a series issue far beyond simple willpower that often requires the assistance of an outside force to break the cycle.

Myth 4: Size Matters

In brief, science tells us that “If you have only two inches, that’s all you need to please a women.”  Further, Parrott points out that men for ages have been obsessed with the size of themselves and that overwhelming majority of women could care less.

Myth 5: The Bible Is Very Clear on Masturbation

This chapter was written with a bit less boldness than some of the others.  Perhaps because this topic is to hotly debated among scholars.  Parrott takes a very neutral stance, outlining some clarity of what scripture says, and suggesting some practical wisdom.

“There are no verses in all of Scripture that speak directly to masturbation.”

Parrott does offer an intriguing list of “When Masturbation Becomes Harmful”:

1.     When it entails a lifestyle of lust

2.     When it becomes compulsive

3.     When it becomes a substitute for real sex

Myth 6: My Sex Drive Is Too Powerful to Control

This is dispelled simply in 1 Thessalonians 4:4 “Each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable.”

Practically, Parrott makes several suggestions in this chapter including accountability partners, resisting the belief that we are animals and incapable of fighting urges, and bouncing the mind to think about other things.